Sunday, February 18, 2007


i Do Electronic Weddings! But Not CyberRape
by pam ashlund

Is your wedding so complicated that you need a database? Well, if you can't afford a Wedding Planner then how about trying iDo: Wedding Couple Edition software?

I was thinking...why go to your own wedding? just login, register for the license, and IM a kiss to your beloved!

It's probably happening as I write on Second Life; amusing as I find it all, I just can't stand the idea of two Avatars wedding on-line. Too late of course, I remember way back when there were MUD's (Multi-user Dungeons). More than one wedding happened in those worlds (and one Rape if you can believe it!).

Read the chapter called "A Rape In CyberSpace: How an Evil Clown, A Haitian Spirit Trickster, Two Wizards and a Cast of Dozens Turned a Database into a Society" in a fascinating book called Internet Dreams: Archetypes, Myths, and Metaphors.

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Friday, February 09, 2007


Symbolic Bears

On our first date Mr. Ex bought me a stuffed bear adorned with little peace signs. The peace bear sat on my dresser for the whole year we dated. But then...the break-up. The BEAR HAD TO GO. So the bear, the cd with "our song", the trinkets and birthday gifts, all went into a bag in the back of the closet. I purged every reminder of Mr. Ex.

Many weeks later I needed that bag for a trip and dumped out the stuffed bear that "he" bought me, and also a stuffed cow that I had bought for myself. I loved that cow and I'm not sure why I put him in the closet. The two bears fell from the bag onto my nightstand (my bear and "his" bear). I swear I did NOT pose these bears! This is how they fell:

Mr. Cow really put the dumb peace bear in his place!

Gotta love synchronicity.

Signing off,


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Wednesday, January 31, 2007


Well, if you're not getting married, you might as well have a good handbag!

Sunday, January 28, 2007


Got an emailed photo of a friends engagement ring. She's a photographer, note the sparkly light reflected on her hand.

I would say of myself "always a bridesmaid, never a bride....", but I'm not even a bridesmaid!

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Sunday, January 21, 2007


OK, I know, I know...Weddings, Births, and Funerals, the circle of life. It all came together to me at a friends wedding. No doubt they paid big money to have someone put a circle of rose petals under the canopy. Red at the center, then pink, then white.

Charged with taking some candid pre-wedding snaps, I was probably supposed to be sneaking around taking pictures of the flower girl or the brides maids giggling. But then, it was me. They chose me for the job. So what was I compelled to "shoot"? The circle of course. I was transfixed. I took one look at it and all I could see was a murder scene. A spot of blood at the center, ever widening as it spread out on the white carpet.

A very creepy symbol to stand upon for ones wedding...or is just my fear of marriage? Or more Jungian, that in marriage some part of the individual self must die? Or am I mixing up the French metaphor, la petite morte? (look it up for a laugh if you're not familiar)

Take a look, was it my morbid imagination?

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